Madness...

I really don't know any other way to describe it. At times it's the most amazing madness you can experience. Other times it takes every ounce of patience and sanity in my body to make it through the madness. No matter what kind of moment it is, I essentially have triplets.... Well actually they are Triplett's! I'm sorry, I've been waiting months to say that. Moving on...

It is nothing short of madness adding two more kids nearly the same age as your existing child to the mix, literally overnight. We had a set routine with the boo. It was easy. He's knows what we expect of him. Because we've raised him from birth, we've been able to mold him into this incredible little man, who is beginning to understand and live his life by the values we've worked on instilling in him. Yes, I know he's only 6, but I also believe its never too early to start giving your kids the proper tools to enable them to have the best chance at life possible.

Now we have 2 more incredible sons, who at 7, are trying to understand A. That we expect anything out of them at all, because no one else ever has. B. What exactly those expectations are. So many people have failed these kids. They need a lot of work. I'm not gonna lie. It's not always roses and sunshine. There are meltdowns multiple times a day. They fight like cats and dogs. There is non stop yelling in our house from the Children. It's either yelling due to a fight, or yelling from them having a great time playing. Either way, our house is loud nearly all the time.

The first week was overwhelming and awesome. By Friday, the boys relationship hit a turning point. They suddenly started getting along 100 times better than before. All 3 still tattle like there's no tomorrow. Tears are shed multiple times a day. Nothing is ever fair. Like I said, madness.

I wouldn't trade this madness for anything in the world.

-t

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